Thanks to each and every one of you dear people. Thank you for all the healthy reminders (Ann), the love (everyone) and the awesome "prayer" (Mountainmanbob)--it gave me goosebumps & I will keep reading it. I do love her so very much and don't want to lose her again.
There is good and hopeful news--they are on their way to my house today. Her BF plans to get into treatment as soon as possible after they arrive. They have a plan and it sounds clearer than any others I have heard lately. I have said they can stay two nights only. That is all I can handle and she knows my boundaries around this. My mental work will be keeping her teenaged sister from taking on all the things I have worked so hard to detach from!