Originally Posted by
YearForMe 
Zoso...
Maybe I missed something....but I don't see where a few phone calls
constitute "Stalker Eradication Mode"
I get blocked number calls all of the time. I ignore them.
I could....possibly go into "Detective Mode" and find out who they are....
and in doing so....find out it's someone I don't want to hear from....
Or I can hit IGNORE and proceed with my life....like you were doing.
I turn my phone off at night...so maybe that is what jolted you about this and I
just don't have that to draw from to understand.
I have read past posts and I fully understand and appreciate the complexities of dealing with a BPD (Ex husband) but always remember.....they are just waiting for you to respond or acknowledge.
And any response/acknowledgement is response/acknowledgement.
My vote....
Turn your phone off at night...you said nobody you know would call at that time of night
Hit Ignore feature on all of the other blocked calls
shrug your shoulders and say "hey...looky there...a blocked call....Tough turnips...I don't answer blocked calls"
And go back to your wonderful life.
With all you have going on in your life, as your posts describe....
and this knocks you off center???
..............just consider that maybe you have a little unfinished internal work left to do.
Maybe just a smidge....
Said with love and respect.
Thank you for the thoughtful response, YFM.
There is quite a bit about my AXGF that I haven't shared on these pages, and quite a bit about the fallout of the breakup I haven't shared, too. It is enough to say that what I do for a living is considered "sensitive", and it is also enough to say she pulled some stuff that put my career in jeopardy two years ago. And that's why I am automatically concerned. If you really want to know, you can PM me.
For what it's worth, I leave my phone downstairs at night, ringer off.
If your AXH is Borderline, then you appreciate and understand the level of sadism just a person is capable of. The target is off my back, and I intend to keep it that way. Maybe you're right: maybe this is throwing me off too much. Maybe in a few months time, this won't resonate as much.
But right now, at this moment, she's scares the sh*t out of me. I know what she's capable of. And based on that, I'm going to do what I feel is appropriate to protect myself.
ZoSo