Originally Posted by
thotful 
Do we just have to accept that they have these absolute myths, mis-truths, and made-up stories about who we are, what we're about, etc?
Am I getting caught-up with something that was just a bunch of quacking? (I suspect this particular brother is suffering from alcohol abuse)
Well, yes, and yes.
My sister has a completely different view of our parents than I do. She is allowed to have her ideas, and I'm allowed to have mine. Generally, we get along just fine because we don't talk much about it. I don't have to agree with her views, but I have to accept that they are hers and she is allowed to have them. Anything else would be controlling on my part.