The story in our family was that nothing was wrong with whichever parent was doing the quacking--it was all the OTHER parent's fault, or our fault.
I feel for kids who grow up in A families w/o the support of their siblings. My sibs and I still eye roll at the antics of our parents, and it's a great source of validation and comfort for me.
Never underestimate the games As will play to divide and conquer siblings, so that unity and recognition of their idiocy never happens.
I'll tell you, as an SR-sister, that your feelings are real, whether or not someone else happens to agree!!
Also, I saw that you broke down his statement word by word, to defend yourself. Don't. He just distracted you, got you focussing on what YOUR problem is. Guess what? That frees up everyone from the anxiety that you might notice THEIR problems!
I found my best protection from that bullsh& was laughter, or a snappy comeback (which I'd usually think of an hour too late, darn it
