I feel your pain. When a girl dumps you, she should at least give you a reason. Sounds like that may be what's bugging you? You thought everything was going fine. Then she pulls the lever, and you fall through the trap door. Yes, its happened to me too. Maybe in the long run you are better off without such a person in your life. Think about that before you reach for a bottle and blow your sobriety over such a person. Maybe she's just not worth it.