After years of stuffing my feelings, I am really working on "allowing" my feelings. I try to look at them like a third party observer. Where am I feeling this feeling physically in my body? How does this feeling contrast to other feelings? What am I honestly feeling? What is this feeling telling me about my needs? What I have learned is that I stuffed my feelings a lot because I was afraid of feeling them, but I have come to realize they are not nearly as awful nor as overpowering as I had feared.
As bad as this feels right now, remember that your life is the bright blue sky and it is constant and stable. The clouds always, always pass.