Originally Posted by
jennyv 
I want to grow old with someone who loves me, who respects me and who wants to be with me. Not someone who abandons me . . . .
Well, I FULLY understand all that.
All I can say is, me, too.
But have sort of come aware that may not be where the path I have been on is leading to.
Maybe the same for you? Dunno.
If not, it may be time to check some other paths.
he doesn't want to pay child support or alimony..
we just call that a bum. Not so much just an A.
I'm broke and scared. And I'm hurt. I should have filed years ago, but didn't. Now he filed and I feel like I've been hit. Blindsided. Is it really the alcohol that has made him so selfish? Or is it really the 'real' him?
Sorry do not do the "real him" stuff. Can pull up the old car pictures, if that helps. For now, this is the "him" you have to deal with. And that is real enough.
Would not worry too much about who pulled a pen out and signed some paper first.
You know about Alanon? Where and When, and all that?