Hi jenny,
Welcome to SR. I'm sorry for what's brought you here, but I hope you stick around. (((hugs)))
An alcoholic isn't thinking with a logical mind. Talking to a licensed addictions specialist may be useful. For the emotional/verbal abuse, the stickies at the top of this forum hold a lot of good information. I posted this because of my own experience with emotional abuse:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...emotional.html
Have you been to an Alanon meeting yet? There you'll find lots of in-person support from those others who understand what you've been going through. This is for us, for our own healing.
First step -- a call or visit to a women's shelter. If you can't get through on the national hotline, there are local resources also. They can help you find legal support. He has no right to throw you out of your home, especially with no support. He should be the one leaving. Find out what your legal rights are. What he "wants" has nothing to do with what he's required to do. Does he have a steady job?
When he is drunk and/or abusive, you have the right to call 911 for help. Even if he's passed out and you're worried.
((((hugs))))