Hi SBS
Sorry man, but whenever someone says that x recovery method is 'mental masturbation' I want to ask them what they think drinking is....
But fair enough. If you're finding meeting based solutions are not your scene, try Rational Recovery and its AVRT - it's blunt and to the point and there are no hugs, candy floss, or flowers.
I recommend you visit the
Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from that non 12 step approach.
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