Well, I get out of the house and live my life. Cleaning and cooking only go so far. People in AA talk about the big book because it is the AA textbook on getting sober for people working AA to get and stay sober. You wouldn't sit in criminal procedure class with your contracts book sitting in front of you and resent your classmates for refusing to discuss a bargained for exchange when the topic is exceptions to the warrant requirement.
I can only speak to AA because that is what I use but it isn't a magical cure, attend meetings and then I don't drink. Working an AA program teaches me to deal with life and all it's messiness without resorting to my favorite coping mechanism of alcohol to numb me out. I had trouble dealing with life a long time before I ever drank alcohol. If I address those issues and learn better coping strategies I am far less likely to drink. But I have to be willing to face that. Sobriety only gives me a better chance to do that. I don't look at it as quitting forever. I could pick up a drink tomorrow if I wanted to. But for today I choose not to drink. So, get out of the house if you are staying inside. Volunteer somewhere. Get out of yourself. I spent so much time feeling sorry for myself that a lot of life passed me by. You can do it if you want to.