LS- It's interesting to read your posts. Your experience with your dad, and many of the other members with spouses who drink, are interesting to me. I have a cousin who is an alcoholic, but we aren't in touch often. Other than that I don't have anyone in my life who is a problem drinker. (That I know of).
I also have been thinking about people I have hurt. Honestly, I've kept the drinking so hush hush that I can only think of one person, and of course it's the man I was so close to and loved. I don't know what to do about it. Apologizing is empty at this point and once I leave my job, for my own health I don't plan on having any contact with him.