Originally Posted by
readerbaby71 
Oh, I was angry. But I practiced the breathing we discussed in therapy and tried to look at it from a perspective of compassion. I didn't really talk to him until he had settled down and taken a shower, so that gave me about an hour to gather my thoughts and decompress. I'm learning that immediate reactions are not necessary, nor are they usually positive. A discussion is always better than a fight, no!?
You are doing fantastic
Just a friendly suggestion as a fellow double winner, since he might be back on a slippery slope: make sure you stay tight with your own alcoholism program so his drinking does not trigger yours. It's good that at least he did not drink at home in front of you.
Like you, I see my recovery as a process and sometimes it is 2 steps forward and one step backward: progress not perfection. The only thing you and I have to do absolutely perfectly is abstain from the first drink, anything else is a work in progress.
hugs