Originally Posted by
CodeJob 
Wow. I am really impressed ReaderBaby! Way to go! I really liked hearing that trying to regain a balance in overly detaching that your T mentioned. I am always struggling with that.
If I had lived through your evening, I would have been a anger ball zapping around a pinball machine at least for awhile. I might have had to lose a few quarters and then maybe then I would have calmed down.
Oh, I was angry. But I practiced the breathing we discussed in therapy and tried to look at it from a perspective of compassion. I didn't really talk to him until he had settled down and taken a shower, so that gave me about an hour to gather my thoughts and decompress. I'm learning that immediate reactions are not necessary, nor are they usually positive. A discussion is always better than a fight, no!?