Still here. I have been married already 17 years. I am waiting until AH is non-functioning, MIL dies, or my youngest turns 18. So the longest I am looking at is a little under 8 years before I am OUT.OF.HERE.
I get through it ONE DAY AT A TIME. Each day will pass and time will go by...and then it will be here. I have accepted it as such and it's ok. Some will say I am wasting my life....but I already wasted so much by focusing on his alcoholism...once I let him go I was emotionally free. I am preserving my finances as well, since court battles can be costly, and I am not going to do that to myself and lose the ability to support my kids.
Sue