AH! reads like someone thinks they know whats better for another person.
The first requirement is that we be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success. On that basis we are almost always in collision with something or somebody, even though our motives are good.
What usually happens? The show doesn't come off very well.
So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making
This is the how and why of it. First of all, we had to quit playing God. It didn't work
read more of the solution in the big book
follow through witht he steps and find out why this is bothering you