He is great in other ways, but I think he possibly likes the idea of us drinking together...we did when we first became friends. He has said allsorts like ' I will stop drinking with you'..I did not ask him to, but does not follow through anyway. But has also said not to expect him not to drink. He does not get it/does not want to get it. Maybe indeed to be more selfish and much clearer...i don't really know what is reasonable to expect