oh wow..great post. I feel like I've been looking into the past for years. My sister, love her to pieces but could never live with her or close to her, always wants to bring up our childhood. I'm so ready to NEVER talk about hour upbringing again. Then, I read this post and wonder if I've ever truly healed from it since I'm not even sure I remember it all, or what I remember is even correct. I've worked so hard trying to make sure I didn't repeat that with my own family and in many ways my children have it so much better. I think my past is what makes it so hard to accept my AH's disease. I failed trying to make my home one without the kind of dysfunction stories are made of. I guess that's just fantasy when we are talking about people who are fallible and made of flesh.
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Thanks for the great food for thought post!