Courage To Change 04/08/14
Courage To Change 04/08/14
There can be great value in examining the past. It can offer information about the present, as well as clues that might help us make changes for a better future. For those of us who denied, distorted, or lost touch with
painful memories, facing the reality of our past can be a critical part of our Al-Anon recovery. Fond memories must also be recognized if we hope to look back in a realistic way. Still, it is important to remember that the past is over.
We are powerless over what has gone before. Although we can take steps to make amends, we cannot change the fact that we have harmed others. And we cannot change the fact that others have harmed us. We have only the power to change this present day.
The best use we can make of the past is to face it and then move on. We can certainly learn from all that we have experienced, but we mustn’t let it hold us back from living here and now.
painful memories, facing the reality of our past can be a critical part of our Al-Anon recovery. Fond memories must also be recognized if we hope to look back in a realistic way. Still, it is important to remember that the past is over.
We are powerless over what has gone before. Although we can take steps to make amends, we cannot change the fact that we have harmed others. And we cannot change the fact that others have harmed us. We have only the power to change this present day.
The best use we can make of the past is to face it and then move on. We can certainly learn from all that we have experienced, but we mustn’t let it hold us back from living here and now.
Today’s Reminder
I will not get so bogged down in dealing with old wounds that I forget about new growth.
“The past is but the beginning of a beginning.”
H.G. Wells
This was actually what started my journey of healing. Looking back and looking for my role and how I reacted in my head where others seemed unaffected.
I always look for these posts, they are a real guide to me as to how to progress and where to go with my recovery next. Thank you!
I always look for these posts, they are a real guide to me as to how to progress and where to go with my recovery next. Thank you!
oh wow..great post. I feel like I've been looking into the past for years. My sister, love her to pieces but could never live with her or close to her, always wants to bring up our childhood. I'm so ready to NEVER talk about hour upbringing again. Then, I read this post and wonder if I've ever truly healed from it since I'm not even sure I remember it all, or what I remember is even correct. I've worked so hard trying to make sure I didn't repeat that with my own family and in many ways my children have it so much better. I think my past is what makes it so hard to accept my AH's disease. I failed trying to make my home one without the kind of dysfunction stories are made of. I guess that's just fantasy when we are talking about people who are fallible and made of flesh.
Just typing...
Thanks for the great food for thought post!
Just typing...
Thanks for the great food for thought post!
This being on high alert all the time is of course making it impossible for me to relax and is of course making me anxious! The thoughts that have subconsciously kept this habit in place are those of a child seeking safety. The what ifs - what if this or that happens, the distrust, the almost paranoid outlook in any situation. I am not a child anymore nor am I in habitually unsafe circumstances, but this ingrained behavior has been negatively impacting my adult life for a long time. If I had been unwilling to look at my past I would have never made this connection. And I am sooooo excited to have had this revelation - in just a few short hours I can just feel the difference this knowledge has made for my recovery!
Thanks for giving me a place to share what for me is really momentous growth! It really works if we work it!!!
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