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At some point we have to accept our part in our situation. Accept our responsibilities and stop blaming others for our situation. I feel like letting that situation go on long enough to get fired from your job before deciding to look for a solution is the definition of insanity. Doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. When my kids were young and to this day, I usually plan for the worst and hope for the best. That way you are always prepared. Just because you are divorced doesnt mean your xAH is going to be a different person. Plan accordingly and your kids lives wint be so hectic and filled with negitivity. That stuff does spill over. I felt like when I read your post that you were worried about him bringing you to court for contempt.. good idea! let him tell the judge how he cant be responsible and stick to the agreement so you had to take care of your responsibility and do what was best for you and your girls. he doesnt worry about being in contempt, so why are you? the only thing you did wrong was letting him be in charge of your life! Good luck in the future![/QUOTE
You know what's fun about abusers? Especially ones w buddies who are cops, a judge whose kid he coached and court bias against moms when dads cry "alienation"... They use the legal system to abuse and manipulate. I haven't played into this one bit. But thanks for suggesting I have. I have fought back, documented, been to court and been viewed as being unreasonable bc xAH is a sociopath liar who charms and presents a story to counter every bit of evidence I have.... I haven't contributed to this but if you haven't followed the crazy tale do the justice system failing my kids and I, I guess my post wouldn't make sense....
I agree that would've been insane of sit and wait and now complain that I lost my job. Wasn't what I did.
Are you aware of my experience w the court system & my attempts to change this for the last yr? I'm asking go in all sincerity. I'm guessing not bc if so you'd not have posted this.
Glad to know the state you're in much have a vastly more effective court system than mine. Truly. I wish mine were functional. It's not. And it rewards abusers.