Thank you im going to check out those forums .. I was suppose to be at a meeting at 9 this morning but i got so mad that used his negative energy and ended up drinking a bottle of wine which I totally regret because no I am being called an Drunk .. Its a horrible scary feeling to think that someone you love can say and do these things to a perfect family . I have said the same thing a hundred different ways to get him to get sober .. I really do need to get my head out of the clouds Thanks everyone very much for the replies