Hey, openmind, how are you doing today? Hope you're hanging in there.
I'd like to suggest Alanon for some face-to-face support and education as well as continuing to read as much as you can here at SR. Here's a link to help you find Alanon meetings:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Also, have you checked out the stickied threads at the top of the page? There's a lot there that's worth your time also.
Wishing you strength and clarity.