It sounds like he is out of control and in control of this whole situation.
That for some reason he thinks HE can call the shots. He doesn't realize that he's losing his family. He doesn't think HE should because he can't help himself because he's an addict. Honestly - It sounds exhausting and lights my fire thinking about it.
I know how horrible living with someone who is in active addiction is. I have been lied to, stolen from and completely taken advantage of. I felt used, abused and completely powerless over my situations. To the point where I didn't even want to work things out one minute and the next I couldn't help crying thinking he was dead somewhere. It's a vicious cycle.
We are hear for yoU!!