Lovenjoy, prayers sent for you, and empathy as I am going through the same.
My Aunt 89, told me she has been blessed to be able to lighten the load of others, that the burdens were never her own. In a recent conversation with her, I finally understood she was not trying to take on the trials of others, she was available to provide the help they ASKED for IF they were ready to receive it with her boundaries. She travelled, went to parties, vacationed often, visited friends.. She took care of herself first and then she helped people like me. Hope this makes sense.
Hugs and good thoughts to you.