I read that story and know how much of it is true for me too. I feel pity for the little scared me that needs so badly to be loved that any behaviour is acceptable. I've managed to stay away from my xabf for about 10 days now and I'm hoping that means I can start to classify him as an xabf. He still is trying to suck me back into his life with excuses for contact. So many things he needs to check with me about his medical care etc. At first, I felt as if I should fix everything. Now I'm starting to get irritated by him. I want to move on but I still feel guilty. I hope it's progress.