Also, another thing that is a positive here - these circumstances have shown that my husband is now fully invested in and supportive of my sobriety, actively and verbally. He went through a sabotaging phase, a skeptical phase, and finally after a few more phases he is really dedicated to me staying sober. That is so so nice. It really came out. Someone told me "wine helps" on my FB wall and he got mad and said he wanted to yell at them and say "Renarde is an alcoholic and doesn't drink." Wow. This from a man who in 2012 didn't believe me and was hostile about it. There is a trust component there now too that I don't want to betray.