OMG You are so right! I never thought of that. Something that is in MY control and is MY decision. I am the one that earns it. I work my ass off. I can't support two households though. His dad is paying for rehab AND for the 3/4 house AND gave him a car. I'm like wow! I tried to buy that car from his dad but they told me no. I got something a lot nicer though...I have a car payment but it's mine. I can tell him he can't drive it. I pay the payment and the insurance and the gas. He will have to do the same. I don't have any answers to the questions that are burning a hole through my heart and soul, but that gives me a smidge of solace. Thank you