She's an alcoholic and a bully. That's a lot of quacking and verbal abuse going on. You have the right to a better life than this. Of course alanon is a threat to her. She doesn't want to lose control of you.
Have you read the stickies at the top of the forum? It's good to read back through them from time to time. I never bothered with the abuse ones until recently. I didn't think they pertained to me. It's hard to see clearly when our viewpoint of what "normal" is has become so skewed.
Here are a couple of them.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ening-you.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...oint-view.html Substitute "his" when they say her, abuse does happen to men also. Try to not look at ways this is different than your situation. Check to see if anything is similar.