Liz, I'm so glad your son was able to speak up for himself. I totally agree that THAT is the great takeaway from this whole situation. My AH is also the king of big plans. For him, it is usually big plans to buy a new truck and fix it up. He has literally been "on the cusp" of buying a new truck at least 20 times in the last three years. And surprise surprise...he has never actually bought one (much less "fixed it up.") I would have been willing to bet that your AH would have lost steam on this plan long before it would have come to fruition. But it absolutely adds a layer of "scary" when these crazy plans involve kids.