DG -
((((hugs)))))
Getting drunk or high aren't long term solutions to your pain and fog. My advice sounds trite, but after the initial discomfort, you'll come out stronger and more aware of what you need in a relationship. The important thing is you are so smart and self aware. You waited til you felt strong in your sobriety to make this change. You have great plans on how to stay sober and the strength to use them. I'll check back in a little bit. If you need to reach out, feel free to pm me.