I think I can take it not so personally because I had addiction issues - and did and said things I regret - that I wouldn't have done if I were not addicted.
I was only addicted to vicodin and cocaine in a very sick way... and heroin has a much deeper hold. My recovering addicted husband is a IV heroin user.
It's very hard to not take it personally especially when mine sold a family car, and the kids Ipad to get his next fix. I was ANGRY - and didn't respond in the best way.
I pretty much smashed all his glass figurines. I get it. I was just trying to help - because that way of thinking has helped me. I didn't cause it, I can't cure it and in no way he did those things to hurt me.... it was just a consequence of those actions he felt he needed to take to get his next fix. Sad... very sad.