Hopeful, those are the exact words I would expect to hear from my AH if we were to split. I swear sometimes they are all like carbon copies in many ways. Glad you guys are working on the divorce agreement amicably for now, too!
Your post made me think of what my AH said the other day. I had taken my son shopping at the outlet stores on the way home from a tennis tournament in Texas. When my son showed his father the shirt, my AH says, "Oh, did your mother buy you that shirt to reward you for losing your match?" UGH! He glanced at me when he said it, obviously looking for me to defend myself. I said nothing.
Totally different scenario, but the alcoholic is always trying to get us to engage, to take the bait, to defend ourselves, etc. By stepping out of the ring, I've left him standing there alone with himself. Hugs to you, my friend! Keep doing the next right thing!