Wow I feel like I am reading something from my life. My husband was the same way til a little less than a month ago when he got into a major car accident and totaled my car, he was cut off by a driver who hit the front of the car and spun him into the concrete wall on the freeway and the driver took off he was high at the time and so he took his personal **** out of the car and left and came home on foot. The next day he checked himself into rehab and has been there since. I hope it doesn't take an accident to get your man to get help but your situation is so similar to mine, and that's what it took my man to finally get help cause he could have and probably should have been seriously injured but by the power of god he walked away with only some bruised ribs and a headache. Prayers your way!!