I'm sorry, hopeful. It is difficult. I agree with lillamy that finding a balance with the expectations is key. Expectations that would be reasonable for a non-A may not be realistic for our STBXAHs. Setting the bar for our expectations at
what is realistic to expect given past experience with our A eliminates some of the hassle. Also, I've just started answering many things as YES or NO. Nothing else unless absolutely necessary.
ETA: Actually, you probably already knew all that and just wanted to vent! In that case, vent away
