Originally Posted by
EDV 
I found out three days ago that while my husband of 10 years was in Brooklyn , NY. He got so drunk, blacked out and woke up the next morning with his pants off in some other strangers/woman's bed. He says he doesn't remember anything except being at the bar. When he woke up the woman turned around and he asked he where he was and what happened. She told him that he was in her apartment and that they "kinda had sex". He quickly ran out of her apartment and caught a cab back to his hotel. I have seen him blackout before but usually at home. I am so hurt. I am not 100% sure that he doesn't remember anything. We have never had a problem in our marriage and I know it sounds cliche but I know he would never do this intentionally. I am so hurt and I don't know what to do. Can I forgive him? Should I forgive him? Is it really possible for him to be blacked out for such a long period of time?
May I gently suggest that these 2 statements are not consistent w/each other? Most healthy people would consider it a problem in their marriage to have their partner drink to blackout. It is NOT normal OR healthy behavior, and it sounds as if your husband's problem has skewed your perspective and affected your life.
Please, read here as much as you can to educate yourself about alcoholism, and please consider attending Alanon to get more education and support for yourself. You deserve better than this, truly.