The only way you can deal with infidelity is that the cheater has to be an open book to you from now on to buildd your trust. Thay menas no secret email acounts and telling you where he is and with whom at all times. It is crap to say this is not your problem. In fact his actions show you have a big problem. He is sharing and driving AA women around. Hey most of these women are single from the faimly devestation their drinking caused.- theyoften have already wreaked one family. AA tells you not to share much with the opposite sex but few lisen. My husband never cheated while drinking- he has a long time[0ver 9 years} affair with a AA ho. Over 2 years sexual- the rest best friends leaving me at home thinging he was just going to all those meetrings to stay sober.
You will never be able to giv e him blind trust. In fact if he continues to interact with these women, He will most likely cheat again. You need to going to
www.survivinginfidelity.com for the best support. Some alanoners here will tell you to let go and let God. Well only if you want to be cheated on again. Of course the cheater wants to forget and move on. He needs to come clean and be an open book. He is not doing this. To sit with her when you are at a meeting together is HORRIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!dax