Try this on for size.... You moved out of the house because of the damage that has been done, and you dont put much stock in the changes he says he has within him because of things you have heard...why would/ should your kids have any different feelings, fears, worries, opinions...? After all they lived that life with him as did you, but frim their own perspectives. Like the others gave said, its his problem/cinsequences to deal with...not yours!