Timeforachange, Welcome to SR! Thanks for sharing your own story a bit here.
Take the time to strategize a bit as it may be worthwhile in relation to custody.
Anger is a perfectly acceptable emotion in your situation. I think you have acted with a lot of safety mechanisms in regards to your business and assets. Kudos!
As for Codie label, your H hid his initial addiction. You seem to have caught on fast and kicking him out in just 4 years is impressive IMO. A feisty Michigander. Love u already!