Lovenjoy, I picked my first counselor bc she wrote she liked dealing with Codie's on her web page. She was OK but I felt like she was not guiding me anywhere. I called my EAP for help with a kid counselor. I really liked him and I switched to him myself. He asks me tough questions. It is a little weird to have a male counselor but it works for me. He is also close to home and has night hours!
At first counseling, running, a new job, SR, some Al Anon helped. But in Dec I got depressed and apathetic. No exercise high. Started meds but they did not kick in for about 6 weeks. I am still having focus issues. I try to be patient with myself. Counseling and journaling have probably helped me the most.
Good luck.