I think sometimes we need to connect the dots between our past issues and our present ones in order to resolve things.
Past issue...I felt unloved as a child.
Present issue...I go to great, sometimes unhealthy lengths to convince people I am lovable.
The present is trying to make up for the past.
In reality, it's not other people we have to convince that we are lovable.
It is ourselves we have to convince.
I believe that everything good begins with self and moves outward.