What to do?
We were suppose to have a marriage counseling appt on Saturday, but he was too tired..... So I went for my individual session.
Okay so I got totally freaked out by what he told me. First he asked me what I want in a relationship with H, of course first thing was quit drinking and so on and so on. Well, what if he did all of this, what role would you play in the relationship since you would no longer be the caretaker? wow, I had never even thought of that, really what would I be if not a caretaker? I don't have any idea who I am so how could I give up my identity of caretaker?
Whenever I have shared my likes or dislikes or wanted to do something H makes me feel stupid. It's really hard to figure out who you are, when H is trying to keep you in the role he wants you to play.
I told counselor I need specific things I can do to not be a caretaker anymore, and he said we would talk about it next session. So of course I can't wait, and I knew you guys would have advice for me....
Mindi