Hi Jennicole,
So glad you found us but sorry you are going through this.
What I got from your posts is this:
1) He received a DUI around 3 years ago
2) Lately he's been drinking 5-6 vodka drinks per night (that you know of)
3) He sometimes wets the bed
4) He sometimes acts ridiculous with the kids and starts arguments with you.
To me this suggests that he isn't that high functioning at the moment at all. This has to be taking its toll on you, along with the walking on eggshells you must be doing about the bed-wetting.
I put these things out there in stark relief, because it sounds like you are doubting your right to be concerned, and wondering if you are overreacting. You do deserve better.
You didn't cause this to escalate. It isn't about him "making you happy." Don't let him take it off on a tangent. But be prepared for him to distort whatever you say. He may initially be willing to consider some solutions to his drinking to please or placate you, but be prepared for backsliding on this.
Hope you will keep on posting...