You took the first step in reaching out for support.
It has taken me months to really figure out what is going on in my relationship. I knew there was something wrong but I thought it was all me. Now, that I know what it's called, I can no longer live in denial and I have to deal with my part of it. My kids are 14 and 11 and see what dad is doing and its not ok for me or them. I don't have the answers and some days are pretty dark. But I wake up each day and take each moment as it comes, no matter what. I am putting my needs (still figuring those out) and my kids needs first.....that is a peaceful and safe environment, no matter what.
Prayers to you and your family.