"Discuss coping tools, and learn basic recovery techniques for you, not the addict."
I think that's always been the answer to bickering around here. Bickering only seems to happen when we start talking about how to fix them, not us.
I choose to fix me every day with a lot of prayer, sweeping my side of the street, maintaining self awareness, and a check up with my therapist every 6 weeks or so. I don't think I've ever felt stronger and consciously happy.