Originally Posted by
Txhelp 
You sound like you are strong and doing the right thing.
It's so difficult to listen to the desperate pleas, in their voice, saying how "hungry, tired, in pain, lonely, etc." I have heard it from my young adult children. I also have a husband in recovery.
They are desperate! I can only imagine. Addiction is a lonely, dark place.
I have many meetings, that I have attended with my husband this year. It helped me listen to the voice of addiction and addiction in recovery. Most addicts will say...it's the desperation that helped them get into recovery.
Once I heard them say how desperation was a catalyst for change. I know I was doing and did the right thing regarding letting go.
I wish you strength and peace.
The desperation is what makes it so hard I agree. You hear the devil (addiction) in their voice crying for help but they are handcuffed by the addiction to keep feeding it and pushing help away even though their poor soul is dying inside. Its muffled, and trying to cry out if only in brief moments, but that's what hurts so much. Seeing your loved on so helpless. I as a non addict cannot understand that sort of helpless. I never felt it. I only hope that HIS OWN desperation eventually makes him realize fully what he needs to commit to in order to fight this addiction. I know MY desperation for him to stop doesn't mean ****. I express my concerns but matter of fact, and regarding our child. I set the limits and I have to enforce them. My mistake in the past was to try to save him, force him, threaten without following through. I just wonder how long, if ever, it will take, and that's the real issue for me. Letting go completely of all hope that he wont wake up and fight for his life just seems against human nature. It really really sucks how addiction ruins lives.