Originally Posted by jjj111

LW, it sounds like he is pretty good at tugging your heart strings. It's understandable that you feel badly for him; you had a big emotional investment in your relationship. But it also sounds like you know that there is nothing you can do to help him, that he has to choose help for himself. So maybe it would help you to stop giving him access to your heart strings? There are ways to make contact as minimal as possible, or even go no contact, considering that he is such a threat to you that the police took action to protect you and you now have a PO in place. It doesn't sound like he is in any shape to visit his child. From where I'm standing it looks like you can stop talking to him about his recovery anytime you choose. Good luck! I know this must be very painful.