these sound like pretty typical challenges in any committed, co-habiting relationship.
It was easier to ignore or shove aside those challenges when we slurped them down with a big gulp of vodka..... but when we are sober and present, they are there to be dealt with.
Here's the thing; it's not about HER. It's not about YOU...... it's nobody's "fault".... this is the stuff of life and the challenge (as well as the glorious opportunity) - is to learn to communicate and cooperate and work together through those challenges.
And that's how relationships deepen......
EASIER. SAID. THAN. DONE.
But having been in two failed marriages for a total of over 18 years of committed co-habiting relationships..... as well as thousands of hours of counseling.... I've learned some stuff.
Good luck and hang in there. I'd advise patience and communication and self-care and maybe some counseling for yourself to start with.... sobriety brings on a lot of new twists.
