Bear, an open and honest talk about the chores will go a long ways, we lacked communication skills before and as we progressed little things piled up into mountains. Now these mountains are beginning to crumble and we see things in a much different light, helping out, letting small things get in our heads. Thats why it is so important to talk about, rather than stuff these feelings. We all know how that works out. After 21 years I still feel relieved after a talk about whats bothering me or my Significant other. Congrats and keep up the good work