"Somebody wants HIS cake, and to eat it too," comes to mind here.
I agree 1000% with MissFixit, 48 hours ago he had an entirely different agenda.
Quite frankly, I smell a rat.
Proceed with utmost caution.
I really respect how you are attempting to do right by you and the kids. And I hate to sound negative or discouraging, but if you allow it, HE will throw that monkey wrench in the mix, and try to sabotage your own personal recovery.
I view his actions, as a means to regain control. The simple fact that you are not engaging every step of the way, currently has him scrambling, personally, I do not believe he has an effin CLUE/ or maybe it's the alcoholic mantra coming out , LIE, LIE, DENY, BLAME others, and shift the focus.........