I've started working the steps with my sponsor who I have called twice now. I went to my 3rd therapy session this morning. I told my AH exactly what I want and what I won't tolerate. I'm feeling pretty bold at the moment. I don't know if us because of anger or what, but my therapist thinks anger is or can be a good vehicle for needed change. She just might be right.
You sound strong and like you have a lot of resolve.
Would you be comfortable with telling him that leaving and informing you via text is unacceptable, and that if he chooses to leave again, you will expect him to stay gone until he has X months of sobriety under his belt? I don't know if that's reasonable, or even good, but it's just a thought I had?