Hammer, thanks for sharing...I feel your pain too. And my daughter's father was not only an enabler, he was a drunken encourager. So sad.
CodeJob, thank you for saying that...I have felt so guilty having those thoughts. An escape from reality is exactly what it is.
Dandylion, I just got the book on my Kindle and will start it tonight...will let you know how it goes!
Thank you all for listening and being here. Tying a knot on the end of my rope and hanging on.